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RE∙LAT∙ION∙SHIP - A Word Study

I originally wanted to title this post "PRElationship" but then immediately realized the futility of doing so. The premise of course being, every successful relationship comes with preparation. But... the reality is we can prepare for relationships, but we can't prepare for who we're relating with/to. 
Abiding by the "textbook definition" of relationships anyone may count themselves a success. Why? Because it misses the central point. It reads like so:
The way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected (by blood or marriage)The way in which two or more people or groups regard and behave towards each otherAn emotional or sexual association between two people  These definitions do not provide any clarity as to how to relate. That, and we're not offered a distinction between those that are healthy/unhealthy or successful/unsuccessful.

However, these answers exist within the very composition of the word. Let's b…
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When, Will You Be Here?

"When" is that distant friend of ours we can't seem to easily get a hold of. Once dependable, "When" rarely seems present and is always promising you of their later availability. 
Here's what I'm alluding to: for a lot of us, our goal setting, vision casting, and dream chasing is defined by “when.”

When I get this job When I get this carWhen I have this conversationWhen I develop this idea When, out of context, is illusive. Getting away from the word play for a moment, I realize that this play on words in its usual form, "when will you be here?" communicates the same point. In all your wishful thinking of the future, when will you be HERE in the moment? Creating a new reality for yourself requires you to remain in your current one to see the revision process through.



View it this way. It's not just about getting there! With any destination (there) you have a starting point (here). So you can't get where you want to go when ignoring whe…

Resolve Your Resolutions

It's that time of the year! "New year, new me" - as cliché and dated as that statement is I'm sure we'll see it posted about and hear it in passing.

New Years is a time people use to reflect and create goals for improvement. Alternatively, without reflection, people simply vow that the year to come will be better and express eagerness to see the end of the current year. But why do we wait until years end? Ecclesiastes 5:4-5& Numbers 30:2instruct us not to delay fulfilling vows and oaths, and to hold to our word and do everything we said we would. So what holds us back?

I believe what holds us back is the comparison trap. Luke 18:18-27 introduces us to the rich young ruler. He's resolved to inherit eternal life so he rightfully inquires with Jesus as to the means of doing so. The responses are encouraging as he realizes he's doing many things correctly. So at what point is he disheartened? Jesus challenges him then to do more - go and sell all he has …

Virtue of the Virgin

I had the good fortune of catching up with a friend on some spiritual matters, and despite my low I was empowered to uplift him. Here's some encouragement to those of you holding steadfast to purity.
I wish you could take my word for it as I'm trying to impart it to the children and youth–what you're holding onto is truly a treasure. Sex in marriage (something I hope I could still fully enjoy as God intended) will be extraordinary! 
We're such an impatient kind. Giving it up now is to experience it only in part. It's a total experience – spiritual, physical, social, emotional, psychological. Heck, just look at the slew of articles encouraging you to f* freely. Problem is they're dismissing so much, tending only to focus on one aspect the act.
To have sex before marriage is like collecting a miniscule monetary amount in the moment, rather than accepting God's magnificent fortune in the future.
Soul ties are very real too. If you give it up, you'll in so…

3 Perspectives of God's Pursuit

TheLost Sheep [Luke 15:1-7]
While God has a multitude to serve His purpose, he has only one who can serve yours. 
TheLost Coin [Luke 15:8-10]
God will shift the world to win us back.
TheLost Son [Luke 15:11-32]
We're rehearsing while God's rejoicing. (Romans 5)

Is it Urgent or is it Important?

Wait! It can't be both!?

My professional and volunteer work history mostly included children's programming. It saw me in frequent, direct interaction with kids with myself in a facilitatory role. Never before had I felt the weight of competing priorities until my current term as an AmeriCorps VISTA. I honestly believe nonprofits were the ones to coin the term "and all other duties" that exist on most job descriptions.
My current supervisor, extraordinary as she is, struck my attention when she encouraged me in my project management to be able to "differentiate what's urgent from what's important." This made little sense to me as I regularly thought of these words as synonyms. That, and I had yet to be introduced to the Eisenhower decision matrix. (it's worth a Google search) Nonetheless, I nodded reassuringly, I don't know how reassuring it was really, and moved along in a state of "huh?" level confusion.

But in all my ESTP perso…

Untitled Poem About Youth

Family is more than blood. See, it's love.

Because even your blood can make you bleed. Would you believe I'm relieved to be released?

But now I'm a part of the system. A statistic. A number.

My name is downplayed, prejudice generalizations in the forey.

As my age increases, my appeal decreases.

Evidence is my younger siblings are in a good home, I'm in a group home.

I was happy to leave my 'rents, who couldn't even pay rent, so their minds dipped into ill-dissent and to make ends they gave their only daughter to strange men.

What's stranger is I'm not maleficent, I'm magnificent.

The situation did not mar me, it marked me.

You are broken by choice - though heart wrenching - let your voice be your tool of choice. Rejoice!

Re? Doesn't that mean again? Wouldn't I need joy to begin?

Rest child. If joy is hard to find, keep in mind you are mine. 


- Louis Cassamajor