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When, Will You Be Here?

"When" is that distant friend of ours we can't seem to easily get a hold of. Once dependable, "When" rarely seems present and is always promising you of their later availability. 

Here's what I'm alluding to: for a lot of us, our goal setting, vision casting, and dream chasing is defined by “when.”

  • When I get this job 
  • When I get this car
  • When I have this conversation
  • When I develop this idea 
When, out of context, is illusive. Getting away from the word play for a moment, I realize that this play on words in its usual form, "when will you be here?" communicates the same point. In all your wishful thinking of the future, when will you be HERE in the moment? Creating a new reality for yourself requires you to remain in your current one to see the revision process through.



View it this way. It's not just about getting there! With any destination (there) you have a starting point (here). So you can't get where you want to go when ignoring where you are.

I'll end with this. The original analogy that occurred to me was that of planning an event. Certain events are defined by their keynote presenters. Your goal is your event, and you were depending on "When" to be your keynote - thus, the question can also be "Did you invite When to (the) present?"






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