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Virtue of the Virgin

I had the good fortune of catching up with a friend on some spiritual matters, and despite my low I was empowered to uplift him. Here's some encouragement to those of you holding steadfast to purity.

I wish you could take my word for it as I'm trying to impart it to the children and youth–what you're holding onto is truly a treasure. Sex in marriage (something I hope I could still fully enjoy as God intended) will be extraordinary! 

We're such an impatient kind. Giving it up now is to experience it only in part. It's a total experience – spiritual, physical, social, emotional, psychological. Heck, just look at the slew of articles encouraging you to f* freely. Problem is they're dismissing so much, tending only to focus on one aspect the act.

To have sex before marriage is like collecting a miniscule monetary amount in the moment, rather than accepting God's magnificent fortune in the future.

Soul ties are very real too. If you give it up, you'll in some way bind yourself to at least one of those people and that's hard to explain. It's like being in a prison yard but thinking you're home in your backyard.

There used to be some attention around the question, "what's sex without love?" The answer is simple, lust. No one proudly proclaims or inspires awe by saying, "we're so in lust!" Now, in love and in marriage, sex can be the personification of 1 Corinthians 13.

Discuss and establish boundaries. If you don't, you won't recognize where they need to be drawn until after they're crossed and compromised.

Spare yourself the guilt, shame, fear, embarrassment, etc. You'd be treating the  spiritual and reverent as sport and recreation.

Idk how many men (or women) will admit it, believer or not, but you're to be envied.

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