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A multitude of scripture speaks to the advantages of singularity, just as much as they do to the advantages of marriage. Perhaps the most encouraging, is this: "Let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing" [James 1:4].  

This is insight and encouragement to the weary heart that sees marriage, engagement, and serious relationships all around them and perceives imperfection and incompatibility within themselves.  

I always spoke to singularity suggesting that it is not representative of your being undesirable/invisible, but instead about your being undone/incomplete. (Read On)

God in this moment is forming you to your greatest version while simultaneously crafting your mate to exceed the expectations of what you want by providing you with exactly what He wills.

Singularity shouldn't be perceived as your being idle, but rather, your being ideal. If we were to forgo patience (steadfastness) than that passage would read differently: "Don't let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be imperfect and incomplete, possessing nothing." That's a little discouraging, I'd rather it read like the original.

So what's the benefit of patience/steadfastness? The answer is in the word itself. things will come to fruition faster when you're steady (firmly fixed & supported) - hope doesn't always exist in haste. Think less of the timing being perfect, and more about your being perfect. 

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